Hmmm, the fear of failure. I am struggling with that right now - some things I need to do I have not done because (and it took a long time realize this) I am afraid I will fail. If I don't try, I can't fail.

Of course, I at least finally realized what was going on and that I am the only one that can move myself forward.

Huzzah to you finally realizing you can not motivate them - you will probably find your confererence much less stressful!